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How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

10.06.2025 16:17

How can couples reverse the buildup of resentment once they notice it?

By taking turns talking.

By giving up the notion that someone has to “win” or that anyone loses by saying “you are right”, “I am sorry”, or “I can do better.”

By internalizing that responding with kindness is strength, not weakness.

If the world was flat, would it be possible to see Mount Everest if it was on the other side of the Earth on a clear sunny day?

By keeping in mind it’s OK to have different opinions and different experiences, and they both matter in equal measure.

By resolving to listen with curiosity rather than defensiveness.

By deciding to stop with the criticism and the nagging and instead say thank you for everything you do for me. Thank you for loving me.

Which country do you recommend for me to live in, England, the USA, Italy, Spanish, or Austria?

By learning to validate what the other is feeling. “I can absolutely see why you feel this way.”

By wanting to truly understand each other, despite feeling unheard.